What's the deal with potty training? Are you supposed to wait until the magical day that your toddler takes their diaper off and says, "Mommy, I want to use the potty now!" I hate to break it to you, but that day may never come. Only about 5% of toddlers self-initiate toilet training, and they may be 3 or 4 years old when that happens. So do you want to keep buying diapers and changing diapers, or do you want to honor your child's developmental capabilities by taking the lead on potty training, and never go back?
One of the themes that keeps coming up again and again in my practice is major troubles with older toddlers in the 3-4 age range who have major potty issues. Fears of pooping sitting down. Screaming when their diapers are taken off. Severe constipation. It goes on and on. What these children have in common is that potty training was usually attempted around age 3, which is often touted as the optimal age to start. That's not my experience, however. There is also no scientific evidence to support this advice either. Once a child has been shown that their diaper is their toilet for the first 3 years of their life, it can be frightening to have their toilet taken away. It's what they're used to, and I don't blame them. If you're currently struggling with issues such as this, I feel for you, and I can help. This is all the more reason to train earlier rather than later.
Before disposable diapers came into existence, families potty trained their toddlers between 12-18 months. This time range is when your child is beginning to try to master their world. You know how they practice getting on and off of a little chair for 30 minutes, or stacking blocks over and over again...well, they are trying to master being a human. They are yearning for mastery, and they compulsively practice their skills through repetition. 50% of the world's children are potty trained by this time. However, the US is driven by money and corporations and thus, we are led to believe that our toddlers should stay in diapers as long as possible.
Does this mean that if your child is past 18 months that it's too late? Heck no! Whether they are 18 months or 4 years old, your child is ready. The only "readiness" to take into consideration is yours. Are you ready to commit to no more diapers, and not look back? If the answer is yes, then I can help you!
Here's my story. After about a year of doing elimination communication with my daughter, I was ready to be done with diapers. It had become a battle every time I put one on her, and I came to the decision that there was no better time than the present. After 6 days of "The Potty Training Experience," we got into a flow and a rhythm and things clicked into place for my daughter. By my and my husband's commitment to consistency and repetition, we now have diaper free toddler under the age of 2. That's how this works, and that's what I can teach you as your potty training consultant.